Tinder 2017 ! Chatting makes the world go round
First, you swipe right, then you match, and finally you start chatting. This is the moment when it all really begins. It doesn’t matter how attractive someone can look in their photos, you’ll realise if you’re into them when you start talking to each other. At the beginning it can be a trivial conversation, but don’t get confused:trivial doesn’t mean boring, you don’t have to say what is common to say. We’re all sick and tired of the phrases like “-Hey. –Hey, what’s up? –Fine, you? –Fine”. It’s time to face the music, this is tedious and dulling. If you are serious about causing a good impression on the people you match with, you’re going to need some creativity and innovation. No one enjoys a dying conversation, and we understand it’s easy to run out of things to say when you doesn’t truly know the person you’re chatting with. Don’t forget what they say: conversation is an art, and this isn’t less true when we’re talking about virtual conversations.
Here are some tips to keep your conversations going:
1) Start by introducing yourself, but don’t be a cliché. Tell them something they aren’t expecting. For example: “Hi, I’m Meredith. I like French fries. Sometimes I get upset because I won’t ever be able to pet all the dogs in the world”. Be random, everybody loves random conversations! And if they don’t, they’re not worth a penny.
2) Immediately after introducing yourself, ask something about the person you’re chatting with. Be original, for example: “What’s your favorite smell?”, “Where’s your secret spot in the city?”.
3) Make them feel that what they say is important. Show them you’re interested. Read carefully what the other person writes to you. It’s very annoying when we say something and after a couple of minutes the person you’re talking to asks exactly the same question, because you feel they’re not honestly interested.
4) This tip is crucial: Don’t be afraid to change the topic if you feel your words start getting overused. As awesome as a topic can be, it won’t ever last forever.
5) Use emojis, but use them use them in the right amount. A chat with not emojis at all seems too serious. On the other hand, a chat full of emojis is too childish.
6) Be careful with your grammar! Remember first impressions do count and it’s probable many people wouldn’t take seriously someone who writes “their” instead of “they’re”.
7) Don’t use abbreviations in excess. Not everyone know what “AMA” means. Just type “Ask me anything”, it won’t hurt your fingers.
8) Plan to meet. Don’t stay on a virtual plane forever. After a period of time, tell the person you’ve talking to that you would like to go for a coffee, for example.
9) Avoid certain topics which could cause controversy, such as politics or religion. It’s great to have deep conversations and argue about fundamental things but leave all of that for when you know each other a little better.
10) Be yourself. We all know we try to underline our best qualities when we chat with someone new, and that’s totally legit. But don’t start saying things you don’t agree with only so other people like you. Remember you deserve to be loved for who you are.